Instaforgranted; private memory making

This is just a quick little post.

I love taking photos, I love capturing a moment, and I especially love sharing them on Instagram. Memories are so important to me, I never want my children to have bad memories of their time with me or their daddy. Photographs are also important to me,  I don’t really have any of my childhood, so I am determined my children will have hundreds, as it’s something I long to have had.

I love capturing messy moments, funny moments, snuggly moments, duvet moments, water moments, fun moments, every moment, but lately I’ve become very aware of how I am capturing all these memories. I’ve become very aware that by capturing the moment from behind the screen, I’m actually not in the moment myself. By photographing the moment, I’m missing some of the moment.

Don’t get me wrong, I am not saying I won’t be taking photographs anymore, just not as many as I used too.

I went out for the day with my eldest a few weeks ago, just the two of us. A momma and son trip to the seaside. I’d usually take several photo’s of everything we did that day, but I didn’t take any. I decided to turn off my phone and not take one single photograph. I enjoyed every single minute and so did he. He had my undivided attention for the whole day and he thoroughly enjoyed it. We had the most loveliest conversations, all frustration free. Instead of photographing the sandcastles, I helped build them without pausing. That day was so important to me, and it’s lovely to think our day is a private little memory between momma and son. No social media whatsoever.

Don’t take your everyday life for granted, stop snapping away constantly. Facebook doesn’t need to see every detail. Some days your babies need an uninterrupted momma, you’ll feel amazing for it too. Be in the moment not just present for it.

Our kids notice everything, let them notice you taking in their every word sometimes.

Memories are precious; make great ones!

15 replies
  1. Davy S
    Davy S says:

    Thanks for sharing, Becci. It is far too easy to think of the social media interest of our experiences and actually miss out on them ourselves. Thanks for the reminder to “be in the moment not just present for it.”

    By the way, I’m stopping by from the Share With Me blog hop.

  2. Jenny
    Jenny says:

    Fantastic way of putting it. Memories really are the best and our kids pick up absolutely everything so we all should put the phones down a little more. I know I am guilty of this and I do try and not get wrapped up into it all. After all my kids are only little once. I don’t want to miss anything. Do I want to experience things through my blog or experience them in person? I always try to remind myself of that. Great post. Thanks for linking up to Share With Me. I have enjoyed reading your post and hope to see you again tomorrow!!! Great blog. #sharewithme

  3. Louisa
    Louisa says:

    Great post and something I should remind myself of more often. It is so easy to get so caught up taking photographs that you exclude yourself from what is actually happening #letkidsbekids

    • Becci Nicholls
      Becci Nicholls says:

      Thank you x
      It’s true, but not because we’re terrible mothers…but because we want to capture great memories…but our kids prefer our presence rather than a photo x x x

  4. Ting at My Travel Monkey
    Ting at My Travel Monkey says:

    I really need to remind myself of this! Since I’ve got into blogging, I often find myself behind the lens on our trips. I need to put the phone away and enjoy more of my precious moments with my son. Thanks for the great post #letkidsbekids

  5. WildFamilyFun
    WildFamilyFun says:

    Great post and something I couldn’t agree with more. Just before the Summer holidays I was aware that I was always taking photographs and not enjoying the moment. I made the decision to go back to capturing some nice shots but not focusing on it. My camera stayed in my bag or pocket alot and I must admit it was wonderful.
    It can be so hard having a blog as you can think ‘Oh that will be a good one’ but then you lose the real reason why alot of us blog and share stories.


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